The Guide to Women’s Toys
Think sex toys were born out of the womans lib movement? Think again. Archaeologists have uncovered some suspected early models that date back to the Paleolithic era. And while their makers didn’t leave behind a users guide, we have a few guesses of what some of those phallic fossils were for.
Yet the long history of sex toys doesn’t make walking into an adult store for the first time any less intimidating. Fortunately there is a wealth of options available online. Were here to shed light on a few of our most popular products and how to use them, whether you are exploring alone or experimenting with a partner.
Women’s Toys for Solo Play (and Couples)
A healthy sex life starts with understanding your own body. Masturbation gives you the freedom and privacy to explore different techniques and sensations plus, it sure beats playing solitaire when you have some free time. Once you know what works for you, it also makes sharing your preferences with a partner easier, increasing everyone’s enjoyment in the bedroom.
If there is one toy you should have in your nightstand, it’s a vibrator. They come in all shapes and sizes and can pack tons of different features, so you should be able to find one that feels like it was made just for you. Check out our complete guide to vibrators, whether you want something discrete or something that would make Dr. Ruth blush.
Kegel Balls (AKA Ben Wa Balls)
More popular now than they ever been (thanks in part to 50 Shades of Grey), kegel balls also known as ben wa balls have benefits beyond the bedroom. While for some women they provide immediate pleasure, they also strengthen the pelvic-floor muscles, which may help with urinary incontinence, aid recovery after childbirth, and help you achieve stronger orgasms over time.
How to Use
The most popular design is a set of weighted balls that slip inside the vagina. They require a bit of flexing to keep in place, a motion that can massage the G-spot. An attached cord typically allows for added stimulation and easy retrieval. (Note: kegel exercises should not be used anally.)
Duotone balls are larger and heavier than kegel balls and they have smaller balls inside them, resulting in pleasurable vibrations. Look for sets that include different sizes and weights to suit your comfort level. And if you want a soft, smooth feeling, look for silicone balls (sometimes marketed as real skin balls).
Dildos, Dongs, and Strapons
If you are interested in penetration, dildos, dongs, and strapons are ideal beginner toys. Their phallic shape comes in an array of sizes, and unlike vibrators, they dont have a motor, so you or your partner can fully control their movement. Don’t forget the lubricant.
How to Use
These womens toys are all about comfort and pleasure. Experiment with different sizes and shapes, smooth versus lifelike. Definitely try out different materials, too; where some prefer silky silicone, others prefer hard glass or steel, which put firmer pressure on the G-spot.
A double-ended dildo can be used by two people at once. Alternatively, get one with a suction cup on the end if you dont want any assistance.
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